Puppy love – griefheart #127

Puppy love
Puppy love

Eleven months ago  Chaney Corley who was only 13 was pronounced dead. It was a death by suicide and she had been rushed to the hospital. I met her parents online after they read my article about honoring my son Charles who

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Dear high and mighty parent

How did you get such perfect kids? No wonder you are bursting with pride. You raised your children right!

Clearly those of us who are struggling with our kids are at a loss for what to do. We didn’t spank them enough, hire enough tutors, take away enough or show them who is boss.

If only we

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Hold you in my heart till I hold you in heaven – #griefheart 126

Hold you in my heart till I hold you in heaven
Hold you in my heart till I hold you in heaven

Dear Charles- I rather you were here with me. But you are not. So I have no other choice. You suffered more than I thought you did.  I wish I could have helped.

All those years of worrying about what would happen to you, and your worst enemy was inside you. How can a mother know to protect her son

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Cal’s Song – by Charles Aubrey Rogers

The irony in this rap song is downright eerie. And the bullying Cal endured ate at Charles.

Cal died by suicide almost exactly 2 years to the day before Charles did and by the same method. I don’t think Charles’ death was in any way a copycat. Charles wrote two songs that I have but

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Facebook LIVE: Stopping the faucet of prescription medications

Facebook LIVE Let’s Talk about it

Stopping the faucet of prescription medications making their way into the community

Date: Sunday, August 28, 6:30-7pm

What can we do to prevent new addictions? A lot more than we are doing.

According to the CDC, “Opioid prescribing continues to fuel the epidemic. Today, at least half of all U.S

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Rock solid heart – #griefheart 126

Rock solid heart
Rock solid heart

I’ll be holding you in my heart until I can hold you in my arms again.

This sent to me by my friend Melissa. Someone close to her sent it when she was having a difficult time. And she sent it to me for the same reason. Every day is a tough day still since Charles’ suicide. Thank you guys

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From where I do I draw my strength?

pray for the strength to endure life's challengesI have been asked this question several times since Charles’ death. As a result, it’s been on my mind because I know that others not in this club must wonder how we go on.

I have had many near death experiences that I have mentioned before–a broken neck, an attempted rape and

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Sunset heart – #griefheart 125

Sunset heart
Sunset heart

Do you see it? In the sky and in the water. This was sent to me by my friend Jennifer. She saw it, snapped it, sent it!

After a sunset there is a sunrise. The ocean still comes in and goes out. Life goes on. The hard part about grief is that with each passing day, you are further from when your loved

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Back to school heart – #griefheart 124

Back to school heart
Back to school heart

Seeing all the back to school supplies including this pencil pouch brings the ache of a life event missed since Charles’ suicide. I won’t ever see him go to college like his friends or graduate.

I am happy his friends are going back and will soon graduate. But I also ache.

What is the #griefheart project?

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Before and After

Ever since my son Charles died by suicide in June of 2015, I categorize everything as either before his death or after.

His death literally split my life in two and I am forever changed.

I still instinctively scan family photos taken after his death looking for him.

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